When parties separate and they cannot agree over the arrangements for their children, it is sometimes necessary to ask the Court to assist and an application is made to the court for a Child Arrangements Order.
Cafcass are the eyes and ears of the court and sometimes they are directed by the Judge to prepare a report and make recommendations as to the arrangements for the children i.e. who they should live with, how much time should they spend with the other parent etc.
A Cafcass Officer has anonymously written an article about 'what they are really thinking' and it does not surprise me that their main sympathy lies with the children who can sometimes find themselves caught in the middle.
If you and your ex-partner cannot agree arrangements for your children, and would wish to discuss the options available to you, the Family department of Dutton Gregory will be able to assist you.
Mostly I file a report to the family court suggesting something that won’t please either; but a court can’t legislate that two grown adults must be nicer to each other. And I go home saddened by how behaving badly after a separation is more supported than challenged by our friends and family. I feel so sorry for the children caught in the middle, and how little I can do to help them.