Perhaps 10% of divorcing couples become stuck over arrangements for their minor children but what happens if the children are older? Older children are often faced with a bewildering challenge to their identity when their parents split up. They may well experience a feeling of statelessness as the family home is sold and may suffer reduced parental support as their parents struggle to map out their own independent futures. Young adults often have fewer internal resources than their parents had and in most situations less – if any – professional support: These children can struggle. They have enough on their plate dealing with the break-up of their family and being brought in as a confidante, judge or sounding board by a parent adds significantly to the ongoing challenges they face.